Relationship coach
Couples Work
What is a Relationship Coach?
As a relationship coach I am one who supports individuals and couples in learning vital skills for relating in romantic/dating relationships and in marriage. I will offer you tools to help you develop conflict resolution, communication skills, trust and safety within your relationship.
What is the purpose of a Relationship Coach?
A relationship coach helps both individuals and couples transform and thrive. If you find yourself in perpetual conflict and arguments and are at a gridlock, then a relationship coach is a wonderful place to start working on and healing your relationship. While disagreements and differences are a normal part of a relationship, a coach can help you see that you can still be successful partners. All you have to do is adopt healthy conflict resolutions and communication skills as well as learn empathy and compassion for your partner and yourself.
Can a Relationship Coach help with dating skills?
The short answer is...YES!
When we are single and dating, it is so important to be able to know healthy boundaries. To work through past traumas, hurts, and triggers so that you are not bringing them into your new relationship.
I often share with my clients this analogy... A relationship is much like a suitcase. The outside is always the same(Who you are fundamentally), it's the contents inside that need to change(Our past traumas, hurts, wounds, triggers, unhealthy perspectives of ourselves).
What is my point?
We can travel all over with our luggage, but if we don't change or organize the inside contents they become a mess and disorganized and we keep carrying them with us hoping and wishing for something different.
How do I know this?
Well, from some really hard past relationships, experience, my certifications and my work with my clients and couples.
I want you to find your authentic self. Not a co-dependant or enabler self. These characteristics will not serve you well in any relationship. I want to walk the journey with you in being independent so you can have a healthy autonomous relationship with yourself and the person in your future. This will also allow you to see red flags when dating so you learn what you want and don't want. What's healthy and not healthy. To be able to walk away from someone who isn't good for you and not be afraid of loss based on past history. Rather, you will be content being on your own instead of having a high tolerance for inappropriate behaviors.
What do my couples sessions look like?
The first line of business is an intake call with you. I will then email you a Gottman's couples assessment. This will allow you to reflect on your relationship and it will give me important information about the dynamics of your relationship including family of origin, the perspective in which you see the world and others.
I will then meet with you both as a couple. This session will last about an hour and a half. After the first session I will determine if we will do some one on one sessions individually to provide a safe place to express what you can not express in the conjoint sessions.
After the individual sessions we will then schedule another conjoint session.
Watching couples thrive , grow and heal with attunement and healthy communication and conflict resolution skills using the Gottman tools I offer them is one of the most rewarding parts of my work.
I look forward to working with you!
***DISCLAIMER: I DO NOT HOLD SECRETS! IF THERE IS INFIDELITY SHARED WITH ME I WILL COACH THAT YOU SHARE THAT WITH YOUR PARTNER. IF YOU DECIDE YOU CAN NOT SHARE THAT INFORMATION WITH THEM, I CAN NOT GO ANY FURTHER WITH YOU. SECRETS DO NOT ALLOW FOR GROWTH, ATTUNEMENT AND HEALING.
It is a pleasure to meet you!
Welcome! Please feel free to check out my website. I look forward to meeting with you.